welcome to the official book launch of
don't marry a frog a husband selection 101
for indian women this is a phenomenal
book an exceptional life survival guide
written by the one and only kitanya
but i hope that this session this launch
is your positivity booster for the rest
of the year and any kind of structure in
our we'll have a bunch of people
reviewing the book and talking about how
they felt while reading the book when
they got to read it in the form of a
preview so followed by that we'll be
welcoming kitanya and she will be
revealing such exciting and amazing
information to all of you you will get a
look at the cover of the book booklet or
a small section i'm going to read
banikatuwanga and a lot of other amazing
things are waiting so this was supposed
to be a live event
on the online channel
online
so having said all these things
so i'll introduce myself very quickly uh
i am johnny nanda in the book editor i'm
the editor of don't marry a frog keith's
first book and hopefully also her second
and her third and her fourth book
so in the uh now on the mind fresh level
nine months
now the content writer of us to join
panem another cobra i joined i worked as
a graphic designer and a host so
the book it's for unmarried young indian
woman
i'm an unmarried young indian woman so i
was like yes please give it to me i'll
read it and uh i read it and page after
page oh my god
it was so interesting and you're not
attention spanish
sometimes you know scroll through my
phone and then come back that's how my
attention span was but when it came to
this book now continuous uh
full uh wonderful de la i read the book
and in the book
after reading it i realized there were
very unmarried women indian women young
women
in the session
so
so this book has taught me a lot of
things personally no reself pity and in
the victimhood mentality
especially
we tend to pity ourselves and think i yo
power and i can't pray
even i had that mentality but i realized
through reading this book that it's all
in our minds at the end of the day
normal life number control and normal
life everything
it's all in our hands it's in no one
else's hands is what i realized
so in fact
that's how unique and uh special her
writing style was it was so direct and
so open
and it was very personal it was like
having a conversation with her
so you know the previous editing
experience
or a high school journal edit whenever
college journal edit
or a friend or not a boyfriend kind of
prolong messages edit connect another ex
boyfriend but uh in the minimum
experience of watching on the kitten
can i edit the book are you number blunt
but she said yes and i was so thrilled
you know the next couple of uh work days
work mother life was so fun and on the
best party
i could interact
now you all might have had uh
she would ask my ideas and my
suggestions and my opinions and i was
like
you're feeling that's how valued
and appreciated i felt through this
entire process and
that really proved to me keep
she has
done her research and her writing
so i
having said all these things
um
as someone who has read the book i also
want to say this book will open your
eyes it'll make you gasp at the drama
it'll make you open your mouth wide with
shock sometimes it'll make you laugh out
loud and it will also blow your mind so
in the book and i learned aaron
basically the the book is for women uh
relationship within aryaka all these
things
being colorless
foreign
uh they don't think about uh choosing
the right partner or will they fall into
a relationship trap every upgrading and
getting now
uh the reality of their life
so after reading this book now
correct
foreign
foreign
but uh is it possible for everyone
since she is having a very busy schedule
so that might not be possible for
everyone other one-stop solution in the
book either when the relationship manual
she
she's a pioneer in the field of
counseling and she's have expert level
knowledge about the revolutionary
branches of psychology and behavioral
science and how to develop a
communication and negotiation skills
with a doable and practical examples uh
the author has quoted very well in this
book so basically this book is not too
long or too short so you can finish it
with the enjoyable reading within a week
so all the best episodes i would like to
thank my fresh team for providing me an
opportunity to share my feelings about
the book thank you everyone thank you
sahars for speaking you made really
wonderful points yes please welcome
harshita hi everyone
i'm connecting from bangalore
and i just finished almost finished my
ug and i'm 24 years old
so
what do you think is next in store for
me 24 years prime time to get married
they suddenly got this thing
and i was like
not at all prepared and totally uh
scared of this idea that marija yanaka
okay
so i told them
i'm not ready i'm scared i'm confused
more than
and anxiety uh was always there
and hardly your arrangement set up one
or two times we could have play some
Post so on the short timeline
funny
of dinner so stp of dinner which is like
okay stop think and proceed and then
because anyway i had no help
our relatives
that's where they clearly spoke about
how to set your boundaries how to know
your self-worth
and all that i was so impressed okay
they remember useful you know stp
mastery or step advanced upward i did
stp mastery and the benefits of mastery
was immense like
communication
relationship psychology
or perspective
we never exposed to such kind of things
and how to invest in yourself normally
in america
we convert them into a frog or a wrong
person
so otherwise
all this so many more things
they were
previewing this book and uh
i ordered for the book uh preview
i could read it luckily very very lucky
fortunately so
in the book was a total eye-opener
i can't explain in words uh how
important and i got this book and it was
in the right time i got this book so
it was very bold because certain authors
every now they uh diplomatic
but this was like on
on poin
and her experience is so clearly seen in
the book
so it was a very helpful and very
insightful book and they known uh
my friend one of my friend
she was actually in a relationship and
she took it to her parents in the madrid
i want to marry this guy
but
they got her married to someone
they liked so in the murray uh
she was she's in that marriage suffering
so she's going through a lot of trauma
so i really wish if she would have read
this book
if she would have
got to know about this book
or uh
it would have helped
so
and so now i uh can confidently say that
i can choose my
life partner i can choose my life i can
create my life i can own my life in the
confidence i got only after i joined
mine fresh and after all these
courses i did
so i am really thankful and blessed
lastly i would like to tell all of you
that
good luck to all of you on finding your
prince
and knowing how to find your friends
so i'm confident that uh
foreign
and now you also know her as an author
but did you guys also know that she is
an amazing amazing artist adhering a
very soon
so join me everyone in welcoming the
author of the hour
tanya wanna come
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um
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from
i've been so little
king
but
that is he was a great father
anna
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i
is asking a
beautiful question
there are no women frogs
uh
okay so the first section in that this
book is written in four uh parts
model part one this parting frogs
spotting frogs
getting rid of their
um
it is all about the men how they are
forced to behave in the society how
women are forced to behave in this
society
please move beyond that discussion of
individual
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it's been like 20 25 years since i have
drawn up
but you know
when they're drawing interested
okay the next question is in the book
foreign
um
what is your
if it will help somebody identify across
the situation and become great in their
life enough i don't mind it's it's
usually it's serving a purpose
craving for attention
my heart knows that
governance
let me share my screen apparently
yes
so in the pinnardi page when they in the
it report not reason in the purpose and
i want to read the first one
uh kirtana is not happy with spoiling
her own life she wants to spoil
everyone's life now particularly women
and it goes on uh
so basically
please make them read they will really
save themselves a lot of heart
so english when the relationship manager
we have to
so please go out of the way and make a
young women read this book okay thank
you take care one second once again i
have one final question that i want to
ask you
uh
for a few words
so
this is in the book
in the part
spotting bs
and uh
sexuality in the topic
people will equate your entire work to
your private parts that's bs
the there is a young woman asking a frog
samia
swamiji who's a defined please and
the frog swami are says
elementary my child it's a woman with a
man's morals
a while ago the metoo movement gained
immense momentum in the west in india
however all it had was a sputtering
start and then nothing not only did it
grind to a halt in a few short weeks but
many women who voiced out their concerns
were also mercilessly crushed with the
iron fist of network patriarchy in their
respective industries
in my opinion the metoo movement in
india will gain momentum only when women
fight for their right to be sexual
not just the right not to be sexually
harassed
this is my account of the vulnerable
moments i faced ever since i was but a
little child
and what a true me too moment would look
like for a woman like me
one afternoon i was catching crows on
the terrace of my village school i had
challenged a friend that i can gift her
a crow damned if i remember how i got
into that situation
my little face was all screwed up in
total concentration i quietly sneaked
behind crow after crow for almost 100
crores i was about to take down a crow
when two hands suddenly grasped me from
behind
when i turned in shock my headmistress
grandson stood laughing at me he was 16
years old he sat down on the parapet
wall and tucked me firmly within his leg
catching crows he asked with the lear
yes and now
i see
each time he asked me a question he
would pull me fast towards him so that
my body and his privates would collide
he would hold me tight against something
hard within his trousers for a few
moments and then asked me another
question he made it look like a game
i knew nothing about anything back then
but it went on to be a searingly
uncomfortable memory
i was seven at that time i was studying
in second grade and i certainly didn't
want to touch him
a few years later a new male teacher
joined my school his standard
instruction to me was your hands are so
cool to touch put them under my shirt
and keep them there
i was 10 years old and i certainly
didn't want to put my hands inside his
shirt
fast forward another year a gangly boy
on a cycle came at super speed came
close to me and hit me forcefully on my
breast
before i could realize what was
happening he sped off
my inner just snapped i gave chase
like angelina jolie in a hollywood
blockbuster and caught him after two
streets
i pushed him down and thrashed him to
the bone i am sure that bloke still has
nightmares of a wee flying girl even now
i was 14 i certainly didn't want to be
touched on my chest by that stranger
and then began the phase where i wanted
to be touched
but i was slammed with the label
i am a perfect example of what outdated
and obsolete values in our incredible
country system of values could do to an
innocent young girl who has done no
other crime than the crime of awakening
to her own sexuality
i wrote a love letter to a boy met him
under a staircase and kissed him
we were caught red handed by my father
now in many progressive countries this
would have been a part of growing up i
was after all 15
but not in my country in my country i
was labeled character-less
so
continuing
you have to buy the book and
read thank you so much daniel for that
preview in the preview
so thank you so much for joining me in
this beautiful moment of my life i'm
extremely honored and delighted to have
each and every one of you